The question about the sad client Meredith, to me that sounded more like a client who was unhappy with her life in general? Almost like she was saying as a young person she was always happy but now as an adult she no longer sees the joy in the same things, or in her life? Or am I not getting this one? It sounds like she needs to accept that life changes as we get older and we do have to let our childhood things go and get on with growing up, almost like she wants to be a Peter Pan. Am I getting it totally wrong?
Another amazing podcast guys 🙂 Thank you for your tireless work 🙂 I've just had a big operation and now get to sit in bed training 🙂 thoroughly enjoying myself
Thanks so much Celeste, Øyvind, and Elly for watching and for taking the time to comment! I've been "off the grid" for a bit on retreat, but back and finally replying.
Yes, Celeste, Cal is like a mine and I'm a miner digging to get the gold nuggets. Sometimes, he makes me dig more than others. Haha!
Elly - I hope your recovery is going beautifully and you're feeling great! And yes, it does seem that this client is having trouble being a grown up (who doesn't really.) But, it is never as simple as just deciding we know what their problem is and then giving them a reality check. There is much more to her current sadness than meets the eye and all things will clear given enough AR and subsequent refocusing with DS. Most clients have multiple strands of emotion and with this client, her emotions seem to be getting intertwined. It is up to us to be on top of the confused emotional mess that can come up and to methodically guide the client so we can successfully sort out one strand at a time. Some clients have a harder time than others staying on track. If she has too much sadness, that didn't all just start right now. That has it's own strand and may indeed require it's own AR. Helping the client to find the joy again by encouraging her to see that her feelings are motivating her to get her needs met and then helping her to figure out how to do that is something I would certainly be doing both in and out of hypnosis.
Thank you Meredith so much for clarifying that for me 🙂
Sometimes it can be embarassing admitting how much of a novice I am but learning through you guys, and being able to ask questions, when I get confused, means I KNOW I am going to be one of the best in my field when I get going 🙂
It is completely my pleasure, Elly! We are learning, that's for sure, and we are all in this together. No need at all to be embarrassed! We all get stumped and we all need refreshers which is why our community and the opportunity to get our questions answered is so important. If you were wondering, someone else was too and someone else definitely benefited by our exchange - no question.
The truth is...you just have to start somewhere and our universe will send you clients you can handle with what you know now. Then, over time, you will build on that knowledge through experience and training you get from the podcasts and by going back through material from class. You have to start somewhere and experience is THE best teacher!
Cal and Meredith, Fantastic podcast, I learned so much frm this session. Have had cleints who were going backwards and forwards and sometimes as many as 17 SSE and still not at the ISE. I have then talked to the clients consciously and talked about the resistence and if they really want to do this work then they need to follow my instructions but now I will do this in trance and be a bit more directive. Also some little things like making sure that the happy event is really a happy event and not the start of negitive feeling that we are looking for as we might miss it. You knowledge and passion for this subject is incredible and I thank you so much for putting this stuff together. I have grown enormously as a Hypnotherapist since I found you.
Hi Elaine -
So happy to hear the podcasts are serving you well! Many thanks for the feedback and keep up the great, growth-oriented work!
All the best,
Meredith
Celeste Hackett says
I enjoyed how Meredith kept at you Cal making you dig deeper for more and more detail in your AR answers. GOOD JOB both of you!
Celeste Hackett
Cal Banyan, MA, BCH, CI, DNGH says
Hi Celeste - It is always good to hear from you and we are all looking forward to getting together with you again at the upcoming NGH convention!
Yes, that Meredith, she really makes me work hard during these video recording sessions, just like you did. lol
Thanks for the praise and comment!
Cal
Øyvind K Holter says
Real great video and again good tips from both of you Cal and Meredith.
Thanks!
Øyvind K Holter
Cal Banyan, MA, BCH, CI, DNGH says
Øyvind - Thanks for the praise and comment!
It seems we always have something new to talk about in the world of hypnosis.
Cal
Ellen says
The question about the sad client Meredith, to me that sounded more like a client who was unhappy with her life in general? Almost like she was saying as a young person she was always happy but now as an adult she no longer sees the joy in the same things, or in her life? Or am I not getting this one? It sounds like she needs to accept that life changes as we get older and we do have to let our childhood things go and get on with growing up, almost like she wants to be a Peter Pan. Am I getting it totally wrong?
Another amazing podcast guys 🙂 Thank you for your tireless work 🙂 I've just had a big operation and now get to sit in bed training 🙂 thoroughly enjoying myself
Kindest Blessings
Elly
Meredith Locher, MA, CH says
Thanks so much Celeste, Øyvind, and Elly for watching and for taking the time to comment! I've been "off the grid" for a bit on retreat, but back and finally replying.
Yes, Celeste, Cal is like a mine and I'm a miner digging to get the gold nuggets. Sometimes, he makes me dig more than others. Haha!
Elly - I hope your recovery is going beautifully and you're feeling great! And yes, it does seem that this client is having trouble being a grown up (who doesn't really.) But, it is never as simple as just deciding we know what their problem is and then giving them a reality check. There is much more to her current sadness than meets the eye and all things will clear given enough AR and subsequent refocusing with DS. Most clients have multiple strands of emotion and with this client, her emotions seem to be getting intertwined. It is up to us to be on top of the confused emotional mess that can come up and to methodically guide the client so we can successfully sort out one strand at a time. Some clients have a harder time than others staying on track. If she has too much sadness, that didn't all just start right now. That has it's own strand and may indeed require it's own AR. Helping the client to find the joy again by encouraging her to see that her feelings are motivating her to get her needs met and then helping her to figure out how to do that is something I would certainly be doing both in and out of hypnosis.
Keep on tuning in!
Blessings,
Meredith
Elly says
This is why I LOVE this place 🙂
Thank you Meredith so much for clarifying that for me 🙂
Sometimes it can be embarassing admitting how much of a novice I am but learning through you guys, and being able to ask questions, when I get confused, means I KNOW I am going to be one of the best in my field when I get going 🙂
Blessings
Elly
Meredith Locher, MA, CH says
It is completely my pleasure, Elly! We are learning, that's for sure, and we are all in this together. No need at all to be embarrassed! We all get stumped and we all need refreshers which is why our community and the opportunity to get our questions answered is so important. If you were wondering, someone else was too and someone else definitely benefited by our exchange - no question.
The truth is...you just have to start somewhere and our universe will send you clients you can handle with what you know now. Then, over time, you will build on that knowledge through experience and training you get from the podcasts and by going back through material from class. You have to start somewhere and experience is THE best teacher!
Love & Blessings to you...
Meredith
Elaine Martin says
Cal and Meredith, Fantastic podcast, I learned so much frm this session. Have had cleints who were going backwards and forwards and sometimes as many as 17 SSE and still not at the ISE. I have then talked to the clients consciously and talked about the resistence and if they really want to do this work then they need to follow my instructions but now I will do this in trance and be a bit more directive. Also some little things like making sure that the happy event is really a happy event and not the start of negitive feeling that we are looking for as we might miss it. You knowledge and passion for this subject is incredible and I thank you so much for putting this stuff together. I have grown enormously as a Hypnotherapist since I found you.
Elaine
Meredith Locher, MA, CH says
Hi Elaine -
So happy to hear the podcasts are serving you well! Many thanks for the feedback and keep up the great, growth-oriented work!
All the best,
Meredith