i don't work with children very often, but on the few times that I have, I found that the DVD you mention was absolutely essential. Without it, I would have been clueless about the differences involved in working with children. It feels great when you hear from a parent months later and they tell you how well their child is doing, and how the child still talks about some of the things that happened during the experience (imaginary animals, rocketship rides, weird but fun stuff!)
but it can be very sad when you observe that the problem is not the child but the so-called adult parent. it is a terrible thing to observe a parent describing the problem, and they are practically dripping with contempt and disgust at the child, who's sitting slumped in shame with their head down. makes me consider smacking the parent in the head with my clipboard when i see that. good tips from both of you about how to draw attention to the fact that the parent is the problem and is the one in need of help, with more finesse than a clipboard to the head!
Steve - Sorry to be so late in responding to your comment I was on a "Vietnam Vets MC Run" all weekend.
Thanks for leaving a comment. And, I agree, children are not the source of the problem in 99.99 percent of the cases. If we could get all the adults from the home into work with us we probably would not even have to work with the kids that come in to see us.
Steve R. says
i don't work with children very often, but on the few times that I have, I found that the DVD you mention was absolutely essential. Without it, I would have been clueless about the differences involved in working with children. It feels great when you hear from a parent months later and they tell you how well their child is doing, and how the child still talks about some of the things that happened during the experience (imaginary animals, rocketship rides, weird but fun stuff!)
but it can be very sad when you observe that the problem is not the child but the so-called adult parent. it is a terrible thing to observe a parent describing the problem, and they are practically dripping with contempt and disgust at the child, who's sitting slumped in shame with their head down. makes me consider smacking the parent in the head with my clipboard when i see that. good tips from both of you about how to draw attention to the fact that the parent is the problem and is the one in need of help, with more finesse than a clipboard to the head!
Cal Banyan, MA, BCH, CI, DNGH says
Steve - Sorry to be so late in responding to your comment I was on a "Vietnam Vets MC Run" all weekend.
Thanks for leaving a comment. And, I agree, children are not the source of the problem in 99.99 percent of the cases. If we could get all the adults from the home into work with us we probably would not even have to work with the kids that come in to see us.