How critical is it to have the offender ask for forgiveness? I often will guide my client into just accepting that everyone can always justify their actions, and it always is based on their own life's experiences. If the offender is truly a ruthless individual with no thoughts or considerations for others, its simply the way it is. Most often its a matter of the offender simply acting impulsively with little or no thought to long-term consequences on the others.
Life is simply a school that never closes. Its a class that never ends. The purpose of life is to learn how to extract lessons for all events. Lessons are always based on "Angelic Qualities". Qualities such as kindness; unconditional love; compassion; tenderness; and the most important lesson of all is "forgiveness".
I further explain that without forgiveness the offender will always "own you". Its the truest form of Vampires.
They suck the lifeblood from you. How do you kill a Vampire? You use the sign of the cross.... the crossroads where if you take the path of forgiveness, they simply become banished, and the "Lesson of Forgiveness" sets you free.
After all, forgiveness is not for the offender, its for us, and us alone.
Rod Kelly says
How critical is it to have the offender ask for forgiveness? I often will guide my client into just accepting that everyone can always justify their actions, and it always is based on their own life's experiences. If the offender is truly a ruthless individual with no thoughts or considerations for others, its simply the way it is. Most often its a matter of the offender simply acting impulsively with little or no thought to long-term consequences on the others.
Life is simply a school that never closes. Its a class that never ends. The purpose of life is to learn how to extract lessons for all events. Lessons are always based on "Angelic Qualities". Qualities such as kindness; unconditional love; compassion; tenderness; and the most important lesson of all is "forgiveness".
I further explain that without forgiveness the offender will always "own you". Its the truest form of Vampires.
They suck the lifeblood from you. How do you kill a Vampire? You use the sign of the cross.... the crossroads where if you take the path of forgiveness, they simply become banished, and the "Lesson of Forgiveness" sets you free.
After all, forgiveness is not for the offender, its for us, and us alone.
Cal Banyan says
Hi Rod and thanks for leaving a comment!
The main thing is to free our clients from the anger that is tying them to the past and resulting in the continuance of the problem.
It sounds like you are doing great. Having the offender ask for forgiveness is just one thing that we can do to help our clients forgive.
I referred to the 10 Keys to Forgiveness but I don't think I've placed a link to that info lately. So here ya go, http://bit.ly/emkIcb
The 10 Keys to Forgiveness are the 10 main tools that 5-PATHers use consistently to get forgiveness, but of course it is not an all inclusive list.
Thanks for sharing & keep up the good work!
Cal